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When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee..

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of

I don’t know about you but I feel I am living in an increasingly ‘instant’ society. To quote the good old Queen song, people nowadays seem to ‘want it all and want it now!’ and while I have no problem with ‘wanting it all’, it’s the impatience and expectation of ‘wanting it NOW’ that causes me concern. Let me explain…

One of my key beliefs is that anything is possible. In fact this is the belief that lays the foundation for me to be able to coach people to achieve their goals and realise their dreams,

I approach each and every client with the assumption that they can achieve anything they want to as long as it is within their control and that they are willing to consistently take the actions required to make the changes they desire.

But what I often find is that people want instant gratification, instant change. And whilst I know for sure

 

'What's it all about?'  'Why are we here?'

Most people I know have asked these questions at some point or other during their life, myself included.  In fact I remember starting at a very early age, giving my Mum every reason to tear her hair out!

But it's true, without a purpose this life can seem meaningless and lacking, in fact for some it can seem hardly worth the effort of living.

I was still looking for the answer 12 years ago when going through a very rough patch in my life.  Through my tears I remember telling my coach 'I don't know what my purpose is. I don't seem to have one!' I'll never forget her words...

As a qualified and experienced business and personal coach I like to keep up to date with what other people in the industry are up to.  I also like to have a coach myself to keep me focussed, accountable and on track. So, last week I took advantage of the offer of a free breakthrough coaching session with a very well known and apparently very successful coach.

Did you know that your subconscious mind simply doesn't recognise negative instructions?

So when I just read through a free eBook written by a confidence coach, giving tips on how to be more confident I couldn't help but notice that 16 out of the 70 tips were negative instructions or 'don'ts'!

Now the tips themselves were all good, great in fact, the challenge is that your subconscious mind works in pictures, it doesn't here the negative words, so when it is told 'Don't be so hard on yourself' all it hears and focusses on is 'be hard on yourself'.  Not that helpful is it?

So how do we turn this around into something we'd love our subconscious to hear regularly and adopt as a new pattern?

Over the past few months I've seen an increase in clients who either don't feel the need or simply can't afford a full on course of coaching sessions but what they do need is a one off session to help them with a BIG DECISION.

Maybe you've experienced a time when you had a decision to make but every time you thought about it it all seemed too big, complicated or overwhelming.

I've decided... It's official...

I LOVE NEW YEAR'S DAY!

For me it holds the promise of a fresh new start, great expectation and infinite possibilities.

Now I'm not one for New Years Resolutions, as I know goals are best set from a great state  not from a place of remorse or regret and certainly not when hungover, toxic and dehydrated.

So for those of you who are inclined to set (or reset!) your new year's resolutions today, I thought I'd offer a few alternatives...

I don’t usually listen to the news – too much negativity clouds my vision but even I couldn’t avoid the fallout from the rioting taking place this week around our country. I’ve also heard some pretty varied reasoning as people attempt to answer the question why?

As a personal development coach I know the poor quality ‘why’ question doesn't often lead to great quality answers.   Maybe a better question would be ‘What makes these people take the actions they take?

Earlier this week I read an article in The Times extolling the virtues of being 'nice' at work. The gist of it being that 'nice' people  are recommended and get promoted more readily, have better working relationships with team and staff, have a better reputation and are certainly coming out on top during this current , ongoing economic downturn.

According to the excellent article by Jessica Pryce-Jones, we first understood the power of being nice at work in the 80's when a study was carried out at Lingnan University, Hong Kong.  It showed that 'nice leaders got more out of people than nasty ones'!

Well I'm sorry but...

Now, I think it's amazing how we are sent messages to remind us of something we know but have forgotten.Recently I've been reminded many times of a car sticker I had years ago.  At the time I fully agreed with its message.  But then, over the years of my personal development, growing awareness and awakening consciousness I began to question its validity.  Nowadays though, I fully understand its meaning.This is what it said...

Now, be prepared for a shock because, as a personal and business performance coach this will initially go against everything you may expect me to say...

So - here goes... are you ready?

In memory of Clive Gott, inspiraional international speaker reknowned for his wit and 'tell it like it is' humour who died yesterday.